Grow Through What You're Going Through; It is All in Your Mind

Emotional trauma is a part of life. Whether you discuss it openly or keep it secret, all of us—even her over there, the one who seem to have it all—have faced emotional distress or difficulty at some point in life. Some find a way to maintain a smile and a positive attitude. Others will stay in the ditch and dwell on every setback. It’s all in your mind. The throat punches you receive in life are often not in your control, but the way you react to them IS.  You can decide whether a difficult time makes you stronger or weaker.  You determine if you will profit from your pain. 

Are you going to have victory or will you be the victim.  The victim mentality is a learned personality characteristic when a person feels weak and unable to deal with or take action in difficult situations. People with victim mentalities see themselves as suffering from the actions of others and continue to feel this way even after the negative situation or actions are no longer present or relevant. If that was you, you wouldn’t be reading this post.  Just in case you are taking on the victim mentality, the good news is, this is a learned trait and learned traits can be changed. 

Here are steps to go from victim to victor. 

1. Convince your mind that you are the owner of all your decisions. Boost your emotional immune system by setting goals to do great things and achieve success instead of going into your corner and licking your wounds. Or as we say in the helping field adopting isolation, distress, and mental instability.  

2. Develop a positive mindset by creating a positive personality. When you become more positive on the inside, the external environment is automatically seen as positive. A positive outside then makes you happy and a content mind can push you towards getting stuff done. Productivity results in success, and success on any level makes you happier. Mentality is a cycle; pursue a positive one, one step at a time. 

3. Meditating is an effective way to minimize stress, anxiety, and self-pity, among many other negative emotions.  For those who are scared of the word meditation, it simply means to FOCUS.  Regular meditation gives your mind time to relax. It does not require any special place or equipment. You can do it anywhere.  You can make it as short or as long as you need.  

4. Let go of your ego and create a brave soul that has the power to love others, especially the loved ones around you. Do be a hard rock when you really are a gem. Blaming others is easy; accepting your faults and taking steps to correct them is a whole other story. It is a bold move. Encourage yourself to take this bold step. Harboring grudges in your heart will only result in being stuck in that spot and bring more pain.  Doing this shrinks all the positive and constructive energy around you. 

When have you felt the victim of a circumstance? Have you tried to get rid of it, or are you still holding it close to you? Share your experiences and open up to others. You will soon see you are not the only one.  

Let’s move past it together.